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10th May
2011
written by naehblog

The deadline to apply for a 2011 National Conference on Ending Homelessness scholarship is tomorrow. Last year, one scholarship recipient shared her experience with homelessness for the blog – we’re reposting it here today. You can always see the original in the archives.

My car broke down and from that point on it was like a domino effect: I lost my jobs, my rent was behind and before I knew it, we were evicted.

My four boys and I became homeless, with nowhere to go. We had no family here, so we were pretty much on our own. I went into a state of depression, but I couldn’t act upon it as I had to be strong for my children. It was eating me up inside.

I couldn’t tell the children as they thought mommy could do everything. I had to deal with what I thought was my failure to them. I was constantly telling them to go to school and get good grades. They looked at me like “You have a college degree with no job and on top of all of that, we are homeless.”

It was a rough road. I knew I had to stay strong for my children and keep encouraging them to do well in school. My children and I both had to learn how to be more humble and grateful for what we had. During that period of homelessness, we had to depend solely on each other. I was constantly in prayer for guidance and help.

My prayers were answered by Decatur Cooperative Ministry. They provided a transitional home for me and my children and provided me with a program to talk to others going through the same situation as mine. They were very supportive and helpful. We are extremely grateful to them as they helped me heal physically, spiritually and mentally. They provided me with all the tools I needed to get back on my feet.

I learned to talk more with my children about our circumstance instead of trying to hide the struggle I was going through from them. I used to shield them so much that they were not able to recognize when I was hurting, struggling and the pain that I had to endure being a single mother.

It was an experience that we all deeply learned from and it has shown me that homelessness has no respect of person, distinctions, race, nor class. Anyone at anytime under difficult situations can become homeless. It was extremely hard going through the experience, but I am grateful of the lessons that I’ve learned from it and what it has done for me. It has made me a more humble person, open with my children, strengthened my faith, and changed what I thought of homelessness.

It has put me on the path of helping to end homelessness as I have experienced it and can empathize with others as I have gone through it.

2 Comments

  1. Deborah Marshall
    10/05/2011

    Everyone should read this.

  2. 10/05/2011

    That’s pretty much the same way it happened to me but luckily it’s only me . I do seem to be coming out of the pit and can see faint rays of light . I too was given the gift of understanding , It will always be with me the rest of my days